You may have heard a lot about “self-care”, but what exactly is it? And how can we experience self-care after we have left an abusive relationship? Below are some tips on how to partake in some healthy self-care habits, and how you can overcome an abusive relationship in your past.
What is Self-Care?
Self-Care encompasses a notion that we take some time away from our busy lives to take care of, well, us! A lot of the time, we end up focusing on the things we need to do, and not the things we need for ourselves. Self-Care can be anything, from washing your hair to painting your nails, to taking a day off to catching up on your favourite shows. It’s a time to look at what you really want and taking the time it do it.
You don’t need to make big gestures, simply pampering yourself and feeling great counts as self-care, but you can do more if you want! Always wanted to travel? Or go to a fancy restaurant with a loved one? Taking some time to do these things is classed as self-care too.
When you’ve left an abusive relationship, taking the time to escape is the ultimate self-care – you don’t have to worry about the person, the situation you’re in, or about your surroundings anymore. If money is a struggle at the moment, consider claiming from CICA, a government fund set up to ensure that victims of abuse are compensated. Alternatively, you can appoint someone to claim on your behalf with CICA UK. It’s a great way to move on financially and get back on your feet, and any money leftover can go towards some self-care treats.
It’s tough to consider moving on when thinking about an abusive relationship. This person may have meant a lot to you, but the main thing to remember is that you come first – before anyone else. Taking the time to look after your needs is important and plays a huge role in moving on in your life. It may be a scary time at the moment.
Guest post by Gina Kay Daniel