Forget Being In A Rush To Do Anything!

When everyone told us to enjoy doing our own things before having our baby, we didn’t take them too seriously as we were fully prepared (or so we thought!) for anything that pregnancy and a baby could throw at us. How wrong were we?! You can forget being in a rush!

forget being in a rush

The thing I have most had to adapt to once we came out of the ‘new-born’ stage was just how long it takes to actually do anything or go anywhere! For those that know me well, I’m an absolute control freak who plans and organises every last deal of everything (I drive Mario insane!!) so for me, not feeling in control or on top of things makes me quite anxious and stressed. When we had Mia I struggled for a long time with this. Not only do you have to make sure your dressed (in clothes that go together!), baby’s dressed and you have your changing bags packed with all of the essentials, I found that even getting into the car, both strapped in and ready to actually drive off could sometimes take me 10 whole minutes! How is that possible?! At first I didn’t factor getting in and out of the car into my timings to meet people or get to appointments and even now with a toddler who is extremely stubborn and wants to get into her car seat herself (which takes an age!), I find it takes at least 5 minutes to get her in the car, bags in and myself ready to set off!

Mia as a baby

Absolutely everything takes more time to do and ultimately gets more difficult the older the child gets! Gone are the days when food shopping was a case of running in and out with the trolley in 15 minutes max, now it takes me 30 minutes to even get in the door and down aisle 1 as Mia has recently decided that her job is to push the trolley (she can barely reach!). Everything has to be planned, I can’t just ‘nip’ to the shop anymore as it takes far too long to get Mia in and out of the car and round the shop than to actually plan to get it another time. Any essential items we run out of have to be planned into a days’ worth of activities or Mario has to grab it on the way home from work. Then there’s the hurdle of getting ready for the day, I find just having a shower in the mornings or putting on my make-up have to be a quick 5 minutes otherwise Mia comes to find me to see what I’m doing, which always results in her getting all my make-up and toiletries out and spreading them out all over the floor!

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It’s taken me around 2 years to feel like I’m really in a good daily routine, one where I can get everything that needs to be done, done and also sort myself and Mia out. I feel like I’m constantly working but it works for us and I can go to bed at night feeling like I have done everything I can and made the most of every single day. Saying that, I have learnt to accept not everything gets done and jobs just have to be prioritised. If there’s any advice I would give a new mum or a mum-to-be it would be to try and relax about things that don’t need to be done right that moment. If you relax about how much time you ‘don’t’ have and try and enjoy the things you do get done, it will be a much smoother ride and let’s face it, parenting is a hard enough ride as it is. You can forget being in a rush!

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44 Comments

  1. I remember feeling like this with our first child, then again with the second, and again with the third. It’s a shock each and everytime. Now Elodie is one, things are settling down a little bit, but I still find keeping all the plates spinning a challenge xxx

  2. I can completely relate! I had no idea how it could possibly take so long to get out the door every time we needed to leave the house. My son is 18 months old now, but it still takes forever to get ready in the morning and to make sure I have everything we might need. And then I’ll be late anyway after all of that. I hope I can start getting in a better routine soon too 🙂 #sharewithme

  3. So true and so many of us think we will still be out the door on time and ready, prepared for everything before we have kids. Getting two out the door now is crazy for me. We are finding it easier now that they are older but I can so relate. Great post. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

  4. Robyn

    Great post, I can relate to a lot of this having a one-year old. We’re not at the stage of him wanting to do everything for himself, but it certainly takes a lot of time to get out of the house even to go for a walk.

  5. I know this feeling quite well. Even now that my daughter is 2 years old, it still takes me between 10-15 minutes to get out of the house! I agree with you about your last point as well. It took me until now (roughly 2 years after my daughter was born) to truly adjust to the chaos of it all. And you’re right in saying we have to learn how to let go and prioritize what needs to be done; leave the rest for another day. It’s a great reminder and a sanity saver for all new moms and moms to be. Thanks for sharing on #mmwbh! So glad I found your post there today.

    1. Ahh I’m glad that its not just me!! Prioritising is one of the biggest tips I would give to any new mum, its such a stressful time but pleasing everyone and cleaning up is definitely not top priority. Thanks for taking the time to comment 🙂

  6. Mine are old enough that we can make spur of the moment decisions to leave the house and be out in a matter of minutes. My sister has just had her first and she is going through this shock of just how long it takes to do anything with a baby!!
    Thanks for linking up to #SundayStars

  7. So true, it can be so difficult to spin all the plates sometimes can’t it? I often find it difficult to parent between my boys. 1 is almost 12 and the other just 18 months, big difference between parenting skills! #justanotherlinky

  8. I think the amount of time it takes to get out the house was one of my biggest shocks too. I had no idea how easy this task was when it was just me I had to worry about! After three years I think I now have a reasonably good idea of how long it’s going to take based on where we are going, what we need to take with us and what mood the kids are in. I still find myself arriving places within a window of half an hour rather than on time! #KCACOLS
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    1. I know! I love my 3hrs a week when Mia’s at Preschool, where I can nip to Tesco and walk around at my own pace, down the only aisles I want to go down instead of all of them!! We still aren’t great at getting out on time after nearly 3yrs but we are getting there and we aren’t normally too bad! 🙂

  9. I have found that it is so time-consuming getting the kids in and out of the car, I am much better off just walking to wherever we need to go (as long as it’s not too far). That way you get the added bonus of them being a bit tired out and more passive when they get home (if you can handle the infinitely long time it takes to encourage and coax them to walk anywhere, that is!)
    x Alice
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    1. Oh i agree! That’s a really good idea and I would love the exercise and ‘fresh’ air too! We don’t have many places within walking distance but I like to walk to the park and the supermarket which are about 30mins walk away 🙂

  10. You are absolutely right!! I couldn’t agree more! The most difficult thing is to get organise and ready to get out of the house when you have little kids. If having one child was difficult when we added Sienna to the picture everything got worst!! I’m normally slow as I take a long time to get ready so imagine having to deal with other 2 kids!! It was so hard for me to adapt!! I think now I still find it hard but I have learned how to do things quicker but I need for sure a couple of hours to get all organised! I said to my husband that she should tell me that we have to be out 1 hr earlier than the actual time so then we could arrive on time every where! We haven’t started this yet but I think we will do this for now on! BTW, what a cute photo! Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I would love to see you again on Sunday! 🙂 x
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    1. Aww its so difficult at first, I remember not knowing what had hit me when I had Mia and had to get us both ready and out! I don’t know what I would do if we had another child too! Telling you that you have to be out an hr earlier seems like a really good idea! I need to this for my other half as he is the one who takes an age to get ready! I have it down to a fine art now! 🙂

  11. Kay Brown - Cheery Little Thing

    We’re still in the newborn stage and I can relate to feeling out of control/stressed with times. Thankfully we’re able to have one busy day followed by a lazy day or two where it doesn’t matter so much if I’m up, dressed & showered straight away. I can nap when he does to make up for the loss of sleep in the night!

  12. I used to dread hearing the words ‘I do it myself’ as one of my sons always said… which meant that putting shoes on would be ten minutes or more, a coat add another five…. and so on. Now they’re ten and 12 I still marvel at the fact I don;t have to fuss with car seats and that they can get their shoes on quicker than I can mine now 😉

    Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    Stevie x
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